The following are some qualities that you may ideally want your teen to demonstrate when they leave your home to go out into the world. Therefore, it is important to make time to have a discussion about what it means to be a person of “good character.”
1. Peacefulness: It is essential to discover peaceful solutions to any conflicts or differences you may have with others. Negotiate or find a compromise when there is a problem or issue, rather than yelling, arguing or acting out.
2. Flexibility: It is important to be able to adjust to unexpected circumstances without automatically complaining or showing anger. You need to understand and accept that things will not always go as you’ve planned.
3. Initiative: Complete tasks and/or chores because you are aware that they need to be done, not because you were told to do it or because you expect something in return. Try helping out around the house without having to be asked as being helpful is the right thing to do as part of a family.
4. Excellence: Be the best that you can be instead of trying to “slide by” with a minimal amount of effort. Utilize your talents and skills to do your very best work. Always do things to the best of your ability.
5. Accountability: Take full responsibility for your behavior without making excuses or blaming others. Accept the consequences of your behavior without arguing or complaining.
6. Reliability: Follow through with your promises and agreements. Show up on time and complete tasks as expected. Be a person that others can depend on. Meet or exceed the expectations that others have of you.
7. Honesty: Admit to mistakes and/or wrongdoings when confronted. Avoid using deception or manipulation to get your needs met.
8. Trustworthiness: Demonstrate to others that you can be counted on. Show others that you are dependable and able to keep your word.
9. Patience: Try to endure delays or difficult situations without arguing, whining or complaining. Accept the differences and mistakes of others without criticizing or acting upset.
10. Cleanliness: Maintain a clean body, mind and environment. Pick up after yourself, and stay away from activities or substances that are harmful to your body or mind.
*Note: If your teen is struggling, I can help you to discover the cause and remedy it. Help is just a phone call away! Click on the following link for more information. – Sandra Dupont–LA Teen Therapist