If you have ever wondered why men act or think the way they do, then you are about to be awakened by the pink elephant in the room. These three things are vitally important to a man because if he has not achieved these things, or at the very least, on track to achieve these three things, he will not be able to focus one hundred percent on you.
First things first. A man needs to know who he is. Ever since men are birthed into the world, we are taught to be the protector, the provider. Men have to be the head of the household, pray over important family decisions and make them. A man is taught to know who is he from infancy. As boys, we are taught to be tough and not cry, protect sisters and their mother. Throughtout lifes trials and tribulations, sometimes, this is lost in a man. It is easily identifiable in a man through his confidence and personality. A man that does not know who he is speaks differently, acts differently. It is not natural for a man who absolutely, beyond a shadow of a doubt, knows who is in in this world, to be docile, meek or compliant.
Second, a man needs to be identifiable with what he does. It doesn’t matter what, it just needs be something. A man could be a cable technician, a doctor, lawyer, small business owner, fork lift operator or Project manager. It doesn’t matter what, it just matters that he is identified with something. If you are finding that a guy is jumping from job to job or career to career, then there is no way that he can make a woman a priority until he establishes that. A man will always be striving to identify what he does for his family. A man needs to be clear on what he does in order to fulfill any other familial duties.
Lastly, a man is identified by how much he makes or how much money he has. Let’s not sugar coat this, money is just as important as oxygen as it represents the financial breadth in a man’s life. Without money, a man truly feels like he is choking, financially. This has been a stronghold in the current generations life because of the lack of financial ability a man has. This is the reason you see terms such as Golddigger become such a prominent phrase in today’s culture. Men have manipulated the role of a man to make it seem like women who expects men to pay for most things as a Golddigger.
Ironically, today’s woman perpetuates that by adding the fact that she is a strong independent woman who doesn’t NEED a man. These two paradigms are an example of why there is ~70% divorce rate in today’s marriages. Men need to realize that it is his role to provide financially for someone he is committed to.
Without these 3 things in tact in a man’s life, it is going to be extremely difficult for him to give the needed emotional, financially and physical abilities to a relationship. When looking to settle down with a man, or if you are open to a relationship, it is vitally important for women to realize that these things should be accomplished, or on track to be accomplished, in your man’s life.