Starting the recap from Monday’s blog, @ http://todds-job-tips.blogspot.com, is that hush, hush, secret it broke to you all, though it really shouldn’t be a true secret to anyone who has been in Job Transition for longer than 6 months. Here again, is that snipet:
Want to know a secret? Come here, closer, closer, here it is :
“The most qualified candidate never gets the job.”
You may match the job description perfectly, but that doesn’t mean you’re the best candidate or are entitled to the job. The job description is only a small part of the hiring decision. “Fit” is probably the most important hidden criterion.
Since we know what the employer wants to know and hear from us, what stops us from giving them that information? One single word ~ FEAR! It’s not rational or wise to think that way, but being human and wired the way we are, it is what we do. The ‘Fight or Flight’ response kicks in and since we not in a position to pull up and throw fists, we retreat.
We do that for several reasons, but in most cases, for those who have been in the hunt, so to speak, for more than 6 months, we have been down this road many times before.
We FEAR rejection, being told that we’d be a great fit, but . . . If that irks you as much as it does me, then we’re in this fight together and just need to marshall our strength and run headlong into the battle again.
We FEAR having to start the hunt again. What we really need to do is view each interview as a stepping stone to the Golden Job Bridge that will carry us to our next great opportunity, job or career. This will give us the energy and drive to make the next attempt. If you remember the TV program ‘Quantum Leap’, we are the main character, only we aren’t looking to make the leap that takes us home, but rather, the leap that takes us to our next position.
We FEAR running out of money or unemployment or time. All of those are finite and should be addressed as they are real fears that could come to pass. Maybe the fall back, part-time job to help make ends meet works for us, maybe not. We may have to borrow from friends and family. It’s often tough to swallow one’s pride and ask for help, but this is one battle that we cannot and should not fight alone.
Armed with all of our resources, our mental faculties and the support we know is there, we really have nothing to FEAR, but FEAR itself. (Kudos to Mr. Winston Churchill)
Now let’s get rid of the FEAR or better yet, use the FEAR as fuel to carry us forward through all the other ‘REAL’ barriers in this search mode, until we arrive at our new Job, fulfilled in the knowledge that we are that good, that smart, that talented and the right person for this new adventure.
I’m just sayin’ . . .