Our daily lives can be happier, as in a brighter, with a more positive outlook on our current situation and on the world around us. To say being happy is a matter of choice can come off slightly discounting, assuming all we have to do is say so, and by virtue of that simple act things turn around, miraculously come together, and we are magically transformed to a lighter, happier place. Truth of the matter is… Yes, it’s actually that simple. To be “happy” is all in our attitude, our perception and our reactions to people and the circumstances around us.
1. Our days are filled with so many responsibilities, so many demands we place on ourselves that it’s true, not everything or everyone we encounter is conducive to happiness. We are not monks or impervious to the barrage of negative energy and dialogue that can fly from one moment to the next. We can however control how we react to particular events and choose to throw those heavy, dark and chaotic thoughts right out the window and instead, recognize that, even on the most trying and difficult of days we do have the power to step back and not let the negative stuff influence our feelings or cloud our perceptions. Here’s what you can do to boost your mood and find your happy side;When you catch your monkey brain dragging you into the downer-zone, just STOP IT. Literally stop right where you are and say “That’s enough of that! Think about five positive things that are happening in your world right this minute.” We are inclined to go to the negative far more often than the positive, so override your thinking and consciously recognize the good side of your situation – there is always a good side.
2. Life really stinks sometimes. Daily duties can bring us to a place of complete despair not knowing how we ever manage it all – “every problem has a solution” as the saying goes, and it’s true. Those times when you have been frozen with everything that has to happen or be resolved, and when you shake yourself into sane thinking and strive for the solutions, it’s amazing what can happen in a day. Problem thinking will only give you more problems. Go for the solution – much easier on your mental state, easier on your heart and a channel to a happier outcome.
3. It may sound basic, but… listen to uplifting music. Whatever lifts your spirit, frees your mind, whatever tune, song or album brings you to a place of acceptance, strength, joy and just feeling really good, there is a vibration and energy from music that heals your soul – you will feel a shift immediately when you hear those sounds that resonate with you.
4. Laugh out loud. Really. You know, the silly kind, the tears in your eye kind. An estimated 60% of all people suffering from chronic depression, when they decided to try an alternative treatment, many were helped and some healed with laughter… if you do not have funny people around you, make a point of watching funny movies that make you laugh. Do it out loud, let yourself go and feel the happy vibes and the release of tension and anxiety.
5. Many enjoy writing about those experiences that they find inspirational, and many people gain a great deal from catching an uplifting article or story. Give it a try; journaling is a very powerful healing tool and it gives you a place to express yourself where you feel safe and open. Buy a nice notebook and devote some time each day to pouring your thoughts on the page. You can also do it on your computer, however you may find the deepest thoughts come from the slow and mindful act of writing it down.
6. Stay present. Give yourself credit for being in the moment and look at what you have accomplished – giving power to our insecurities, allowing our psyche to go off on a tangent of what we have yet do is defeating, and destructive. Embrace that you are perfect just the way you are, in all our flaws and inadequacies we are human and we are here to serve, support, share and revel in who we are. Give yourself a little smile and be true to the expectation that happy is yours to have.
7. Stop being the martyr and treat yourself once in awhile. It’s not impressive to always be the one who’s made sacrifices for someone else. Keep the flow moving in a healthy direction by treating yourself to a little something every day – nothing big required, a walk on the beach, an afternoon of window shopping, lunch in a sweet cafe, a glass of wine at your favorite spot, or even a whole two hours just for you to enjoy a movie uninterrupted. The idea is to give to you and you alone each day so that your giving to others brings you genuine pleasure.
8. Step out of yourself each day to do something unconditional for another person. One small act on your part to experience another person’s day being happier will by virtue of association let you feel their happiness. Make eye contact with the cashier at the market and tell them you think they are doing a great job, recognize your co-worker is in a rush to leave the office and offer to finish things up for them so they can get a head start on the traffic – the expression of gratitude on the person’s face will be so worth the five minutes you give from your day. The “pay it forward” possibilities are endless and feel pretty terrific.
9. You may know when you are feeling frustrated when the nasty little green envy creature starts to lurk around your emotions and your thoughts. Our deepest insecurities can come slamming into reality when we hear of someone we know having a really incredible stroke of luck, or a big promotion, a windfall or a dab of celebrity. We can be surprised sometimes when the very people we assume would be elated for us, choose not to comment, recognize or acknowledge our achievements. This is not a statement about you; it is a statement about their personal fears. Be big and gracious and supportive; boost your mood instantly and tell them you are so happy for their success, let them know you truly believe they are worth every bit of happiness they have and in doing so you are raising the bar on what your capacity is for genuine sincerity toward another person will bring you a sense of personal peace and real, solid comfort in where you are in your own life. Congratulate happy people – they are fun to be around.
10. In keeping with being around fun people, make a point of spending time with individuals that are living their lives to the fullest. Be with those people who choose a light-hearted view of the world when you can, their energy and happy ways are definitely contagious. It’s not for us to judge if we think their joy is genuine, most of us are pretty perceptive and we can sense authenticity – gravitate toward that, get some of that, you will feel lighter yourself, and you will find, as you become lighter, your life becomes lighter and that light shines a way for new experiences and new, supportive, happy people to come into your world.
It’s OK to accept some of the not so good, it’s all a part of this life, we’re not perfect, we’re just human beings wanting to stay balanced and have our moods reflect the highest level of our personalities. Acceptance has alot to do with being grounded and at peace with where we are – and that is a wonderful opportunity to boost your mood and find the happy side.