There is no manual on coming out to your family and friends.
But here are some tips based on experience.
It is scary for most people to tell their parents that they are gay or lesbian.
That is logical. You never know how they will react. Ultimately, many parents accept their child’s homosexuality.
The way young people tell their parents, may vary.
Here are four ways tested and proven:
Some do it in the form of a conversation:
“Dad, Mom, I have to tell you something … ‘waiting for the right time makes little too no sense, because the right time never comes. That point you make by your parents to prepare for a serious conversation. “After the dishes I want to tell you something.” Or: “I came along this afternoon, because I want to discuss something with you that is important to me.
” If you announce it this way, you cannot go back.
You must cross the threshold and say it. In addition, you do not have to use the word ‘gay’ or ‘lesbian’. Many people say they are different. They say, ‘I fancy girls / boys’, for example. If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend, it may be easier. You’re in love, so you’re sure of yourself. You can also say: “Peter is no ordinary friend.”
You can speak about your feelings indirectly by showing them a magazine to read. Even without words you can use your behavior to let them know that you are not interested in a heterosexual relationship.
An email or letter:
Some people write an e-mail or letter to their parents. If you write, you can set your own pace and tell them exactly what you want them to know. Nobody talks you through it and you’re not distracted by the emotions of your parents. You have more room to tell them, and your parents can read it later.
Tell them with another person:
For some young people it is better to have a good friend, brother, sister, teacher, uncle or aunt to confide in. He or she can help you in the decision on how you want to tell your parents. Maybe it would help if that person is there, when you tell your parents. It could help to break the ice for them to see you have a close friend or another family member that already knows your decision and your parents will not feel as if they are in it on their own.
Whatever the case may be, honesty is always the best policy.
But remember your parents may be fine with it and some parents never come to grips with it, either way you will feel better about yourself and will be able to live your life knowing you had been honest with the people who are the closest to you.