If you have found yourself here I am very sorry for your loss. This journey that you are embarking on is heart breaking, devastating and sad, but know one day you will feel joy again. Coming home with empty arms from the hospital when you expected to be bringing a baby home leaves you in a state of shock and devastation, but reaching out to others, finding support groups and talking about your feelings is your first step to helping yourself heal.
This doesn’t mean you will ever forget your baby, that in itself is impossible, nor would anyone expect you to. Be gentle with your self, take one day at a time and one second at a time if you have to. Also, let friends and family know what you need help with. For instance, if you need help with grocery shopping, laundry, housecleaning, cooking or just everyday functioning let them know, there are genuine good hearted people out there who want to help.
Grief is not only an emotional journey, but a physical journey as well; it affects all facets of your life. No one gives you a script on how to grieve, this is your journey alone and no-one should tell you how to grieve, everything is changing in your world and you have first hand knowledge of learning how fragile life really is. Feel your emotions, when sad, let the tears flow, if you’re angry punch a pillow, rip up paper, don’t fight what is coming, this will help you in your journey of healing.
Imagine your friend going through this and treat yourself as you would treat a friend. The grief of losing a child can be quite lonely, but reaching out to others can assure you, you will survive and your baby will never be forgotten and if you don’t believe me then realize you have taken the first step by reading this article.