When it comes to deciding whether to divorce or not, some people take their children into consideration as they make the decision. Some people only stay together for the sake of their children. However, in most cases, this is a mistake. Children often emulate the relationships they see in their parents. If parents stay in an awkward or abusive relationship because of the children, the children are more likely to grow up and enter the same types of relationships.
One of the concerns is how to tell the children. While there is no set way to do so, it is important to reassure your children that the divorce is not their fault and that both parents still love them. Heidi Klum and Seal are a great example of how parents should handle a divorce involving children. The couple didn’t even consider staying together for the kids because they realize that children are smarter than that. Seal said in an interview, “It’s not healthy.”
Klum and Seal have four children together, ranging in ages from two to seven. The couple sat their children down together and talked to them honestly about what is going on. This can be difficult for some couples, especially those who are having a hard time being civil with each other. Klum and Seal have not actually decided to divorce at this point, but don’t know if they will get back together. Being open and honest with the children on an age appropriate level will keep the children in the loop and help them get through the process more easily.
Putting the kids first in a divorce situation can be difficult for any couple. If you are having trouble figuring out how to talk to your children about a pending divorce, you can borrow books from the library on the subject or complete a program that helps parents navigate through a divorce with children. In Milwaukee County, this class is required before parents can be divorced.
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