Research has consistently reported that the most invaluable teaching tool for children is when parents model appropriate behaviors for them. For parents who want to help their children build self-esteem and self-respect they need to love themselves the way they love their children. Often this can be difficult for parents who have a history of past abuse that has never healed.
Can we teach self-esteem?
Self-esteem is a characteristic that grows and develops as we learn more about ourselves. It is progressive throughout an individual’s lifespan of growth and development. As your gifts and talents are explored and affirmed your confidence and self-esteem will flourish. Parents should support their children’s natural skills and talents to help them build confidence in themselves. They can also encourage their children to explore their world around them for new experiences. That way children know the world is full of possibilities, with any career they choose as an adult.
Everyone is born with a gift or talent to contribute to the world. There are times when a parent will lose their own sense of self as they spend the majority of their time nurturing those around them. As you help your child explore their strengths, you should nurture your own creativity so that you continue to grow and develop. Then your child will realize that your needs matter and that you also have value to others no matter how old you are.
Confidence and self-respect
Another way to build self-esteem is set personal boundaries with friends and family so that you don’t allow others to treat you unkindly. As a parent this is an important skill for children to learn so they don’t agree to do something that they feel is wrong. Each time they are coerced into a poor choice they can lose self-respect or self-esteem.
If you have fears to face challenge yourself to overcome them. You should forget about past failures and learn from them to avoid making the same mistake. Know that you are wiser and stronger now so be willing to try again. You are then modeling for your children that it is never too late to learn new behaviors. Parents should be assertive to strive for their own personal goals and then reward themselves when they succeed. Each time you are successful your confidence will grow and you will model to your children that perseverance has its’ own reward. Building character is a daily step in a life long journey to becoming a better you, for yourself and your children.