The Early Decision and Early Action college letters have been delivered. Whether or not your student was accepted to their “first choice” or not is pivotal in making the next move towards a college campus in September.
- If they were accepted and THE decision is made, great. Congratulations to all!
- If your student was deferred to Regular Decision, hold tight, be patient and wait.
- If they were denied, sorry. It is never easy to receive that news.
Your student is surely disappointed if they were denied an Early Decision or Early Action from a first choice school; you can be too but now is not the time to show it. It is time for you to be strong and supportive.
The Regular Decision letters (or emails) will soon begin to trickle in and what every parent hopes for is that their student has some choices. Just having a choice is monumental. Knowing that some school, any school to which they applied, respects their diligent efforts in high school, their community and sports involvement and all other life activities does wonders for the student’s self-esteem. Right now, that really matters.
Many students will get a mix of responses: accepted, wait listed or denied. The key thing to remember, as trite as it may sound, is that there is a school for everyone. While it might not be THE school that your student thought was their first choice, it will be the right school in the end. Admissions offices and committees have a keen awareness of who fits into the academic and social community at their institution.
The Boston Globe publishes an article annually that coins the essence of the college rejection letter. The author, David Nyhan, wrote the article in 1987. A great article with much needed wisdom.
After the decision letters arrive and you have processed the information (and before you send in that deposit check):
- Sit back
- Keep your emotions in check
- Think it through
- Evaluate any financial package your student might have been offered
- Make an honest list of pros and cons for each college
- Talk it through with your student, heart-to-heart
Now, let your student do some thinking and thought processing. They will make the right decision. They truly will, it all works out in the end.
In the end…
Remember, this is a rite of passage. It is a good thing, as stressful as it seems right now. Good luck and best wishes throughout the process. Try to stay in the moment and enjoy the ride.