When you’re overweight and you’re intending to be thin, and you go to the mirror and see your overweight body— it can be difficult to feel good, and feeling bad negates your intention to be thin.
I know that sounds unfair, but this is why the intention to lose weight can take so long to manifest. That’s just how the law of attraction works. “It doesn’t matter if you’re a good person or a bad person, it’s law.”– Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith, The Secret
Now, how in the world are you supposed to focus on what you want if your current situation is something you don’t want, and merely focusing on your current situation is enough to negate your positive intention?
That, of course, is the million dollar question. Fortunately, there’s a million dollar answer: selective observation. Selective observation is a sophisticated form of ignoring what you don’t want (your current weight) and focusing your attention on what you do want (a fit and sexy body).
So, how are you supposed to NOT think about being overweight if you’re stuck in your overweight body every single moment of the day?
You look at your body (it’s nowhere near your ideal body weight). That’s fine– it’s OK to simply acknowledge that. But, while you’re observing your weight, you’re also expecting one of three things to happen:
1. The situation is improving.
2. The situation is getting worse.
3. The situation is stable.
While this may seem like an automatic, subconscious observation, it’s always there in one of these three forms.
Assuming you intend your situation to improve (i.e. continued pound shedding), which of these three observational biases makes the most sense? Clearly the positive one bias is the way to go. This will allow you to observe your current reality without simultaneously negating your positive intention to reach your ideal weight.
This is precisely why a positive mental attitude is an important part of any weight loss journey. Attitude is absolutely critical. If you spend time focusing on your intention to lose weight, but you also observe your present weight in either a neutral or negative way, you’re wasting your time. This is why you don’t get thin by harboring thoughts like, “I hate being fat.” Instead you must acknowledge your present overweight body while holding onto the hope that your momentum is headed towards your goal weight.
Fortunately, no matter how overweight you are, there’s always hope. There’s always the possibility of turning things around. Just refuse to focus on feeling fat, feeling bad about your body and feeling discouraged about your progress.
Appreciation. Alignment. Positive Expectation. All is well.