Thank you NYC for making it painfully close to impossible to meet new love interests. When one is fortunate to finally meet someone more than or equal to adequate, and in the essence of our city’s perpetual state of inadequate hours within a day, let’s not waste anyone’s time.
Is this a date?
If there seems to be chemistry beyond the appropriate realm of “just friends” yet the answer is still ambiguous (and seemingly more ambiguous for one party), then someone had better be prepared for an ego beating — break out the Ben & Jerry’s Chubby Hubby and sweatpants. In regard to but not limited to heterosexuality, it is a common argument that males and females (not biologically related) cannot have deep and meaningful relationships reminiscent of courtship that are also mutually platonic. Evolutionarily speaking, monogamy/pair bonds are formed only for the outcome of gene survival*. When said situations with implications of potential pair bonding do not result in a romantic relationship, one can only gather that one or both were simply not convinced of the other’s potential as adequate and stable in regard to health, providing, protection, etc.Wamp waaaaamp. Move on. Unrequited courtship has the potential of lasting way too long.
If you are among the lucky caught in a web of ambiguity, here are some suggestions from locals for your next date-ish (but do yourself a favor and get to the point):
“Check out Break. There are plenty of activities if you are in need of distracting from conversation such as billiards, video games, darts, etc. Also they are always playing a game or something sports related on their many screens. You can sit at the bar or at a table with locations in the bar vicinity or off to the sides and slightly more private. The food is delicious as well!”
Christina Drossos of Astoria, NY
“The Grey Dog cafe on 16th between 7th and 8th in Chelsea! They serve wine and beer only but have a cool vibe. More coffee house than bar/restaurant with dimmer lighting. Good music, great people watching and a killer marble brownie. From Astoria but work in Chelsea and it’s the least pretentious spot out there for happy hour and either quick or lingering dates.”
Limor Levy of Astoria, Queens
“Best bar/resto? I would probably say Mama’s Food Shop. a) Its BYOB so that’s always great, and b) its got the best soul food ever. They use local ingredients and get fresh items every day. In fact, if there is a shipping issue, they’ll close the store so they don’t serve day old food. It can be romantic cause its small, but it’s more like ‘I’m eating in my friends living room’ sort of feel.”
Kevin Miller of NYC
“PJ Horgan’s in Sunnyside. Great Irish Pub. Amazing comfort food and they pour perfect pints of Guinness. You can have a nice quiet date or just hang out and watch the game with friends.”
Andrea Mulero of Maspeth, Queens
“Go to The Lovin Cup – especially for brunch – everything is beyond delicious (and affordable)! Rustic, really cool and laid back atmosphere with beautiful wooden tables. There are private tables but also options of a communal vibe so you can choose what to make of it.”
Elizabeth Grab of Park Slope, BK
*Theories link monogamy to bipedalism : e.g. for reasons of better capability to leave pair bond for shorter amounts of time and gather larger amounts of food and/or protection of offspring as standing up right while carrying young equates to higher vulnerability to predators.