On December 30th, Lebron James turned twenty-seven. A day later, he would take a step that many men fear…he asked his long time girlfriend and mother of his two sons, Savannah Brinson, to marry him. At a New Year’s Eve party, the couple made a commitment to become completely committed.
The pair have been together since Brinson was sixteen and James was eighteen. They were high school sweethearts, young parents raising two children, an NBA couple, and survived The Decision together. Most felt it was only a matter of time before these two would plan their fairytale wedding together. (Source)
Just this past fall, James and Brinson traveled to Charlotte to attend the wedding of their close friends, Chris Paul and Jada Crawley Paul. What a star-studded extravaganza it was!
According to Essence.com:
Three hundred guests traveled to Charlotte, North Carolina, to celebrate the lavish nuptials of New Orleans Hornet Chris Paul, 26, and his college sweetheart, Jada Crawley, 27. Aunties and cousins mingled with celebs and NBA superstars, including groomsman LeBron James. “Chris and Jada are like an extension of my family,” says James. “He’s like the brother I never had. I’m here for him no matter what — and not only for Chris but also Lil’ Chris and Jada.”
Read more: http://www.essence.com/2011/10/12/bridal-bliss-exclusive-chris-paul-and-jada-crawleys-wedding/#ixzz1iJ1J5gxk
Did James catch the “marriage bug”?
There is this strange thing that men go through when all of their friends and relatives start getting married. It isn’t quite the same as when women start feeling the tic toc of their biological clocks. It is more a sense of maturing and changing of priorities, according to some men.
Some time ago, a local gentleman was asked why he finally decided to take the step. He spoke about how all of his friends were married, and his brother was also heading in that direction. His usual close-knit group was no longer there to hang out with, or share the single and not-so-single life with anymore. Then he was also maturing and seeing the importance of family around him.
Many times women feel that in order to get the ring, they must put on the pressure. So in come the ultimatums. Brinson did not take this approach.
“I’ve definitely not put a fire under his[..],” she said. “I would never rush him to do something like that. We’re really comfortable with the way things are now. And it’s not up to me. When it happens, it happens. We talk about it. If we do it, I want it to be forever.”– Brinson in 2010 interview
Ultimatums can sometimes work. Quite a few couples have made the walk down the aisle after an ultimatum laced break up. Sometimes a person does not know what he has until she is gone.
It is the purpose of the ultimatum that matters. If it is merely a way to get what you want, it can have a way of backfiring. You cannot force a person to do something against his will. Nor should you desire to do so. However, a serious life decision to either move on together or move on apart, can start to shift some thought processes.
Work to make it work
As the pair plan the wedding of their dreams, one should hope that they are putting much more effort into planning their marriage. That is where the real work comes. With such a high profile status, there will be a number of outside influences working to tatter their bond.
Naysayers are the last people from whom to get advice, when planning to create a family bonded by marriage. Couples have to have a plan to make their marriages what they envision and not what others want for them.
With James’s career, it will seem difficult. Most people know that temptation abounds when dealing with the life of a professional athlete. However, there are many who maintain the sanctity of their marriages with fervor. Those positive examples are never spoken of in the world of sensationalism. (Read the story of Troy Palamalu)
Granted, not everyone can have the staunch discipline of Palamalu, but with effort to build a strong bond, you can achieve a successful marriage.