Maintaining balance in a busy world can be a difficult task, especially if you don’t know what balance is supposed to look like. Many times we attempt to achieve something before we even know what it is. So what is successful balance?
First I’ll identify what balance isn’t to help you understand what it is. Balance is not getting everything in life just right and trying to maintain it…that will never happen! Life is constantly changing and evolving so trying to get everything just right will rarely happen and if it does, it definitely will NOT stay that way.
So, what is it? Balance is doing what is most necessary while allowing yourself to do the rest when you can. Balance requires adapting to life; it’s being what is most important in your life at that time. Sometimes family will take up a large percentage of your time and sometimes work or errands or even play might take up a larger percentage and then shifting back to family…just know that it’s constantly changing. When a crisis arises you have no problem putting down other things, reprioritizing and taking care of the crisis. This is similar to what you have to do on a smaller scale during daily life – prioritize.
If you relax, get the emotion out of your planning and look at your day, you can see there are some things that need to get done and some things you only think should get done. Be honest with yourself, if you just throw up your hands and say it all needs to get done or I just have too much to do then you’ll stay where you are, living in stress. What is going to happen if you don’t get to the grocery store that day, will the children starve? If the answer is yes then make sure you get the groceries because that’s a priority, if the answer is no, can it be done at another time while you pick up the prescription at the pharmacy? Don’t go through your day trying to get as much done as you can, schedule your week. Practice looking at the big picture instead of just jamming in as much as you can every day. The world won’t fall apart if you and your kids have to walk to the car over a snow covered sidewalk because you didn’t have the time to shovel it, they might even think of it as an adventure! Besides, leaving 5 minutes earlier is easier to fit in than 45 minutes of shoveling on a busy day.
Lastly, if it’s necessary, schedule down time for yourself, whether it’s meditating, reading, watching T.V. or none of the above…give “you” some time to relax. If you don’t, eventually your body and/or your mind will make you slow down by getting sick, getting hurt, getting overly stressed and crashing, etc. So keep in mind your priorities are always fluctuating, so adjust with them. Make sure if you have to focus on one thing like work more than usual, you shift back towards family or something else as soon as the situation has changed…always putting focus on what needs attention at that time. Balance can be achieved like anything else…through living consciously!