What a morning this has been. Actually, what a week this has been already!Gosh!We are only in day three of seven!God never ceases to amaze me—even through adversity.What could I possibly be talking about?Well, our children.Yep!Our children and how they listen or do not listen to us parents truly tests our views of our own parenting skills.
Earlier this morning, I posed a question to my Facebook friends asking them how they would handle a situation where their children did not heed their warnings of dangers in certain areas of life.I have already found so many of my lovely friends to have the same thoughts as I do on this subject.Loving your children does not mean battering them and projecting those famous words of “I told you so”!Quite the opposite is truly the case.Most likely the child (who may or may not be an adult) already has those “I told you so” words running rapid through their mind.So, why would being told “I told you so” again and again be of any value to the child?
Also, why would getting mad about the issue warrant any benefit to the situation?I must say, I advise on the side of loving them through it.While the words “you make your bed, you must rest in it” do surface in my mind, I believe in supporting—not enabling—them to get through the issue at hand.
We all go through the making and consequences of bad choices and poor judgments.Jesus said those who are without sin cast the first stone.And so it is in my opinion of this situation.No stone throwing from me!I choose to live life with the hope of a better tomorrow.And if that better tomorrow occurs out of my poor choices, then so be it.
Parents are guiders, educators, and supporters.I believe when children make poor decisions and wage poor judgments, parents’ flails of anger tend to be directed toward the children when in fact the parents are REALLY saying in thought “I am mad at myself because I should have taught you better!”Many times parents see it as a reflection of their parenting.Sometimes they are right.Other times, it is a result of children learning life.While we may teach our children appropriately and rear them “rightly”, they are still individuals.They still make decisions for themselves.Those decisions are not the sole responsibility of the parents.
Certainly, we may become angered at the actions of our children.However, it is how we handle that anger that will encourage, motivate, and support our children to grow in maturity, in love, and in Christ.THAT is the source of REAL parenting!