Have you ever wondered if music affects your mood, I say it does? I know even my teens would argue that fact, even though they also feel the need to listen to pump up music before a high school game. Why? To get in the mood to be rough and tough of course.
I even remember listening to the Rocky theme “The eye of the Tiger.” I use to lift more weight and run fast to that song, I think. So with that said would you say that music, at some level, affects your marital mood?
Music has always been important to the human race. Since very early in history music played a significant role in how people worshipped religiously as well as being part of social behavior. As technology has developed throughout history music has become more available and is part of almost every facet of our lives.
With the advent of portable music players like the walkman as well as later technology such as the Ipod and other mp3 players, music can literally go anywhere we go. So with music being available to us from when we wake up until when we go to sleep and for some while they sleep, how are we affected by music?
Think about it, have you ever heard Ozzy’s “Crazy Train” played in a wedding, more than likely not. The music played in the wedding is always different than what you will at the dance, which also helps me make my point. No one that I know of has ever kissed the bride to the tune of “Big Booty Hoe’s.”
Much of how we are affected depends on the music we choose to listen to. While upbeat music can tend to cause us to have somewhat of an adrenaline boost, softer music can help us relax and calm us down. Many athletes choose to listen to music before a big event to help get them “pumped up” and ready for competition.
Science all but confirms that humans are hard-wired to respond to music. Studies also suggest that someday music may even help patients heal from Parkinson’s disease or a stroke. If music can do that why would it not set the mood in your marriage? If they did not move people than love songs would never hit the billboard charts.
I used to struggle with anger a lot, along with the alcohol I know the hard rock played a big part in my mood. I was always ampt up and ready for a good fight. Today my wife and I listen to slow and pop rock style Christian music; we are calmer people that very rarely argue. I know the music plays a big part in that.
We fall asleep to Christian music which we both feel may set the stage for the next day. I think more slow Christian music and all love songs set the foundation for how you treat each other. Here is just a portion of an article I read on the brain, “Mannes also says scientists have found that music stimulates more parts of the brain than any other human function.”
That’s why she sees so much potential in music’s power to change the brain and affect the way it works. Mannes says music also has the potential to help people with neurological deficits. “A stroke patient who has lost verbal function, those verbal functions may be stimulated by music,” she says.
“One technique, known as melodic intonation therapy, uses music to coax portions of the brain into taking over for those that are damaged. In some cases, it can help patients regain their ability to speak.” That speaks volumes about music. Couples, I challenge you to add some love songs to your marriage. Maybe even try a Christian radio station for week; it just might improve your marriage mood.