So often do my wife and I hear that we seem so happy, and I do think we are too. But to reach the level that I think my wife and I have reached takes work; I know some people do not want to even consider that it takes work. It would be nice if we could just get married, know that we love each other and be happy for ever. That theory is all well and good but it does not prepare you for all the bumps along the way. Here is a story written by Sheila Gregoire as she realized that people watched her marriage. “While we were in the bus ride up and back, I spent most of the time talking with two of the female coaches, both of whom are divorced (both had their husbands leave them). One is now contemplating getting back together with said ex-husband, and so we spent a lot of time talking about how to develop healthy boundaries and a healthy relationship with God before you took the plunge again with a man who has been unstable in the past. It was actually a very good conversation (at least I thought so). And during that conversation,both women told me how cute they thought my husband and I are. My husband is really very affectionate to me, even in public. He’s always calling me “sweetie” or kissing my cheek, or coming up to me and putting his arm around me. And I do the same for him. And these women said to me, “if you guys broke up, my whole world view would be busted”. I knew my kids felt that way, but I didn’t really know that others did, too. It reinforces to me the thought that other people are watching us. One of the things that always worried me a little bit is that maybe by being so “cute” in public other women might become dissatisfied with their relationships, because their husbands aren’t as affectionate. And so sometimes I worry that I’m making people jealous (not that they want to steal my husband, but that they want what we have). I suppose that’s silly, but so often when wives leave their husbands, it’s because they fundamentally don’t feel loved or pursued, and that leads to all kinds of other problems (it can morph into her resenting him, him responding in anger, cycles of verbal abuse, etc.). And so I don’t want to give anyone an excuse to be dissatisfied. But these women told me that I showed them what was possible.” Thank you Sheila for your story. I know that when my wife and I separated all of our friends freaked out, like now they knew the world was coming to an end. It is so nice now to hear all the nice things people have to say about us. After all, we have come a long way to get here, and went through some hell too. I think I have said this before, so many want we have become but are not willing to do what did and do to have it. Married couples, what do people see when they see you? Is it what you would like to see if the tables were turned? Have you had conversations like Sheila’s with other people? Were you encouraged or discouraged by what they had to say? Are you affectionate either in public or in private or even at all for that matter? If you and your spouse are truly in love it is ok for others to know it. As one of the girls told Sheila, through her they see that it is possible. I hope my wife and I inspire others as well.