Since this is National Take Back Your Time Week, it seems appropriate to ask ourselves exactly what time is. One theory about time is that it is an illusion. (That thought is so deep that it requires and deserves a whole other article)
What if we could go back in time and change decisions and/or choices? Would we really want to do that? Would it be a good thing to go back to youth with the knowledge and wisdom we have acquired as we have aged?
A movie, “Peggy Sue Got Married” allows the characters to go back in time.Peggy Sue fainted at a class reunion and during that period of time, she had a dream in which she went back in time to her teen years. In this dream, she was a teen-ager who knew what was going to happen in the future. She knew whom she would marry, pantyhose would be invented and we would send an astronaut to the moon. It was a bittersweet experience for her.
Like Peggy Sue, maybe we wish sometimes that we could just browse in time. It would be like visiting the library and picking out a book. I would pick out an era of time that I wanted to visit and go there for a while. Maybe I would visit with my mother (who has passed away). Many times I have thought, if only I could just see her for a few minutes. Maybe I would browse into a future time, to see what has happened with our country or how my grandchildren’s grandchildren are doing.
A very brilliant autistic child could understand time better than me when he said, “Time is a mystery and not even a thing and no one has ever solved the puzzle of what time is, exactly. And so, if you get lost in time, it is like being lost in a desert, except that you can’t see the desert because it is not a thing.” (From The Curious Incident Of The Dog In The Night-Time).
Another way he saw time was: “Time is only a relationship between the way different things change like the earth going round the sun…..And because nothing can travel faster than the speed of light, this means that we can only know about a fraction of the things that go on in the universe.”
Do you wish you could be frozen in time at some point (a very happy experience)? If we could freeze time, we could perhaps be happy but then we would be stuck in a moment. Maybe just happy experiences alone would not be so much fun because there would not be any unhappy experiences to compare it with and therefore we probably wouldn’t know how happy we are/were.
Sometimes we are overwhelmed emotionally when we try to project into the future and even control it. However, the more we try to do that, the less we are enjoying our “time” at this moment.
Quick Tips On How To Have More Time
· Guard your time. Be like a soldier on guard duty and make sure unwanted people who don’t have a “pass” enter. I know that sounds harsh, but if you have something pressing to do and not much time, you have to be a little selfish. You could find a way to decline an invitation or telephone conversation gracefully and perhaps if you set a date for this person or thing, you could mange it better.
· Get organized. Either write down or know (in your head) what your goals are for the next day. Don’t wake up and aimlessly wonder what you should do. If you write down weekly what your goals are, you will be surprised how it will ease your mind and you will accomplish so much more.
· When the mail comes each day, it should either me filed or tossed. Don’t leave mail lying around unattended. If it is a bill, put it in a special place for bills. A messy counter or desk makes one tired, and unproductive.
· Do the things you do not enjoy doing first, then reward yourself by doing something you really enjoy.
· Instead of spring-cleaning your house, do an extra job each week, such as cleaning out a closet or drawer. Instead of cleaning all your cabinets in one day, do one cabinet a week or one every day until that task is accomplished.
How much time do we really have? Only this moment …not yesterday, nor tomorrow, but only this moment.