It’s cuffing season. The time of year where it starts to get cold and people start thinking about settling down. Maybe not permanently, but at least while it’s cold outside. There’s something about the winter season that makes people want to find someone to be with. It’s the holidays. It’s the family time. It’s the romantic music. It’s the cold. You just want someone to snuggle up with next to a fireplace. But what are you doing to open yourself up to the possibility of love? What are you doing to help make this happen? If you are walking around angry and closed off, you’re gonna find it very hard to find someone to cuddle up with. There’s only one solution to finding your winter time boo – Stop being a grinch to love.
Let your guard down.
If you’re used to being single, you can get quite comfortable with that status. You start to subconsciously build a wall around your heart. It starts out as protection to keep you from getting hurt, but ends up just keeping other people out. If you have a negative attitude and just seem completely unapproachable, no one is going to want to be with you anyway. You’ve got to find a way to relax and let your guard down if you want to find that special someone.
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Don’t judge a book by its cover.
That awkward first date only becomes more awkward when you spend the whole time judging their every move. Just because they don’t dress the way you think they should dress or chew the way you think they should chew doesn’t mean you should automatically rule them out. You’re never going to find someone who does every little thing the way you think they should. When you do finally meet your soul mate, even they will have flaws. But you will eventually learn to live with them, so when you’re talking to someone new try not to be so judgmental.
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Get out of your comfort zone.
You may be tired of dating, but unfortunately, that’s the only thing that will help you meet “The One”. You’ve got to put yourself out there. And dating is the way to do it. If you get stuck in a rut, it can be hard to get out of it, but the first step is to try. Try something new. Do something you wouldn’t normally do. If it’s not in you personality to make the first move, that might be what’s holding you back! If you are completely opposed to set ups, just shrug and give it a try.
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The grinch was so busy shutting himself out that he couldn’t even appreciate the beauty of Christmas. He was so busy being angry and the people of Whoville that he couldn’t even accept the love from the one little girl trying to express it. Don’t be like the grinch. Don’t let the hurt and pain you’ve experienced in your past keep you from possibly experiencing something amazing.
What do you think? Is your grinch-like attitude keeping you from love?
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