In my previous article “Chasing Cougars” we discussed the various reasons younger men are pursuing older women. But let’s take a look at why these cougars are interested in guys five, ten or twenty years their junior. What’s the big appeal and what are some of the sexy dynamics that cause these relationships to be not only enticing but fulfilling.
A mistake I think many make is that one may assume these cougars are prowling after young meat, trying to lure them away from their healthy happy homes to take up with a hungry,sex-crazed, wild woman. While that may be true for television and film it does not necessarily represent all the reasons these relationships are appealing to the young studs and older dames alike.
Now if you cringed at me using that word “dame” allow me to expound on that. The word Dame actually means lady or mistress of the house. No derogatory implications here. In fact the British Empire uses this word as an official title to address a woman of authority, rank or advanced age. And to top that, they use this title when awarding women for acts of chivalry such as courage, honor, justice and helping the weak. Women still hunger for chivalry but they don’t always need to be the one relegated to being rescued. Sometimes they are the ones doing the rescuing. Some younger guys may need to be rescued from corporate routines, critical and unhealthy relationships or boring girlfriends whose life long ambition is to do more or get more on his tab.
There are three reasons that come to mind immediately as to why these modern day dames are enjoying younger knights:
1. Rewards – Isn’t Time They Finally Got Theirs?
Just as a person can be rewarded for a job well done, cougars are some times coming out of long term marriages or relationships where they have been put in a box by a partner of their same age or older. Whether they were kept on kitchen duty because their lover didn’t know what to do with them in the bedroom or put on an emotional shelf with limited conversing, women don’t exist well in those situations. Sooner than later they will find a means of escape and if they have served their husband or children well for decades and feel unloved and unappreciated they will gravitate to a lover who will recognize them for who they really are. Its as if they are being rewarded for good behavior and now they get to have some fun.
2. Sexuality – From Stale to Spicy
When a couple has gone down the road of romance and then become parents together something changes in how the man looks at his woman. She was once his erotic playmate but for some reason she now fades from his sight as mistress and becomes mommy. If he was involved in the actual birthing process he may find it difficult to ever look at her the same way sexually and while he may still get satisfaction in the sack, she lacks the attentiveness he once provided to her physical needs. When young buck enters stage left he has no season of parenthood with her and sees her as a ravishing beauty and will take any cues given to him in order to delight this vivacious vixen.
3. Emotional Fulfillment
Have you ever heard the phrase: “Foreplay starts when you take out the trash”? It simply implies that if a man will give attention to details that mean something to the woman and take the initiative without waiting to be asked, she will respond to him on a deeper level and in a quicker manner. Women of every age want to see that their partner has put some thought, time, energy and effort into knowing what she needs. When a younger man is attracted to a ravishing dame he will up his game to get noticed by her and make it his quest to explore what gets her attention. If the woman hooks up with a young stud that can carry on a stimulating conversation, look good on her arm and be attentive to her needs she will have no lack of enjoyment in this relationship.
I knew of this woman who made a comment about her lover that I will never forget. She said “He has such a deep intimate love for me that he knows what I am feeling just by the way I breathe”. This lover made it his quest to foresee her needs and quickly meet them to give her pleasure, comfort and security. And really, if a relationship is worth pursuing these are the details that matter and age is irrelevant.