Looking for a wife, maybe a submissive one? Do you know the sound a buzzer makes on a game show when you get the answer incorrect? Loud and clear, that sounds means you are wrong! How about this excuse; you’re looking for a husband to be a good father to your children? There’s that buzzer sound again. That is not a good enough reason to sustain a marriage.
The divorce rate in Austin as well as all around the United States is 50%. In Texas alone the annual divorce rate is 4.1 per 1000 people, the highest in the United States!
For this reason, thy should not wed! Unless of course, you are doing it for the right reasons. Commitment to the relationship FOREVER, under all circumstances is the only reason to get married.
It always helps that your spouse is gainfully employed or your wife is shy and reserved, but that is not the glue that keeps a marriage together. Your spouse has to be number one, always and forever. Now that’s a commitment!
The odds are against it. There is a 10% increase in the chance of divorce if you are already divorced. Now you are up to a 60% chance of failure if you are trying to start over. If you remarry within 2 years during the decrease in productivity, your chances have just gotten slimmer.
What will you do with your 40% chance if you have the opportunity to start all over again? Prepare properly for a successful marriage. The actual wedding is only the beginning. How long do you take to prepare for it? Take that much time or more into preparing for a life together with your spouse.
Already married? Surround yourself with strong relationships. Daily accountability with friends and family will ensure a tight relationship. Keep the negativity and complaining to a minimum. Men call it nagging, women call it reminding. Either way, those powerful words hurt and are not easily forgotten.
The difference between life and death are in the tongue. So pay attention to those vows you’re going to make. Don’t say them lightly, and don’t make promises you aren’t prepared to keep. In some countries, two year marriage certificates are being issued. That is the standard amount of time that most marriages will last, so why not? Welcome to the 21st century!
Divorce can be blatantly humiliating, agonizingly humbling and eventually hurtful. By all means, get married if you want to have children, but don’t do it out of desperation because you are broke or getting old. Hear that buzzer sound? Stay single if you can, for as long as you can!
In a marriage, the purpose for your future is with your spouse and your spouse only. Those kids will come and go, beauty will fade. As the Captain and Tennille sang so many years ago, Love will keep us together!