Once upon a time I had a boyfriend who offered advice when I asked for it. But he never explained the series of events that would get me there, to my goal. Just do it.
But I wanted explanations, I needed details. He on the other hand, was not one to elaborate or carry on unnecessary chatter or conversation. “You don’t need to understand eveything to be able to use it Tina. You don’t need every little detail,” he would say.
This was extremely frustrating for me. He was saying “trust me” and I definetly had issues with trusting. He ended being right, but I operated in a different way. I grew up not being able to trust adults, add, being a single mom for years, I needed to know all of the details, of any given situation before I put all of my eggs in any basket.
Another time, I applied for a counseling job, they didn’t say in the ad that I would be working on the phone. How is that going to work? People are going to make appointments and I will be able to build a client base over the phone? “Yes Tina,” the interviewer said, “You are good and they will come.”
Do I take this job or not? Will it work, I didn’t have time for a dead-end job, this had better work. A mortgage to pay and all of the things three children in school need. I could start right away. That night I tossed and turned over whether or not I should take it. I didn’t call to ask an family or friends advice. I couldn’t.
All eyes were always on me, family was harsh and would criticize my every move, no matter what it was. Friends that I supported through their every crisis, were never there to support me when I needed it. Three children with an on and off again father, needed me to be strong.
He was right. The phone rang off the hook, they wanted me to work overtime to help cover all of the calls that came in for me. I listened, I counseled and boy, did they book the appointments. Even the ones who called and swore I had just given them the worst advice of their life, would end up calling me back, within 48 hours and book appointments with me. I got paid heftily and the checks grew as my clientele grew.
Don’t get bogged down into the details. Until I figured that one thing out, I spent too much time thinking, asking and playing it safe, but “stuck.” There are plenty of people that really want to help you and it can be difficult to sort through and trust that you have found the right ones that aren’t leading you astray.
But as my minister/psychic/counselor/teacher and friend, Patricia Mischell told me, “Tina, just do it. Whatever it is, you will end up needing something you learned from that situation and you will be led to the very situation that is right for you. But not doing anything at all, you are stagnating, you are not getting your energy up and your experiences coming to you.”