Bullying has only within the last ten years come to the forefront and mainly due to the assistance of celebrities such as Ellen DeGeneres. However, bullying is an age old issue.
The developmental ages predisposed to severely reacting to bullying, however, are the elementary school age child and, of course, adolescents and teens. This does not include, though, the umbrella of cyber bullying and its slanderous aggression(s) there under and yes, that includes elusive and subtle “postings” innuendoly directed at “whomever”.
The elementary school age child struggles with the shock and hurtful emotion affiliated with bullying, The adolescent and teen grapples with the emotion of humility brought on by a tantalizer. Why? Of common knowledge is the notion that peers strongly influence adolescents and teens. The Adolescent and Teen hood stages are exceptionally ego-centric. Thus what a peer might say in another developmental stage (such as adulthood) means little, yet carries a significant amount of weight and “judgment” for the adolescent or teen.
The best strategy to bullying is to teach your child how to nip it in the bud. Often times, even a first reaction leads to another until your child becomes a “fish on the hook.”
If your adolescent or teen is struggling with bullying, Bill Cosby’s The Meanest Thing to Say is a good read to share with your child. It teaches a child not to react to taunting thereby minimizing and ultimately eliminating it. The Meanest Thing to Say recognized by Oprah’s Book Club, is didactic and may also be shared with beginning readers, as well.
The more educated your child is about the manipulative nature, intent and satisfaction of the bully, the less likely they are to become a victim. For other insightful tips (See modenook.com/divorce-support-in-national/love-an-acronym-and-…). See, also, the attached links to various Canadian websites aimed at resolving bullying:
Ironically and sadly it is often the victim that carries the guilt of the victimizer. Providing your child an extensive insight about zero tolerance of bullies makes for a good springboard into healthy habits and ultimately lifestyles. Take the step and educate your child about the issue of bullying, no matter how young he or she is.
“Bullies are always cowards at heart and may be credited with a pretty safe instinct in scenting their prey”. – Anna Julia Cooper
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